But what about what you do? I ran a poll on what are the most annoying fights that come up in a marriage, here’s what I got: finances, religious views, parenting and lack of communication (that’s actually a big one)
BUT when I asked what kind of exercises or advice have you tried to get the spark back into your marriage, I reviewed an insane amount of answers including a weekend away WITHOUT the kids, sending sexy texts, leaving love notes around, dressing up and wearing makeup, role play, holding hands, looking into each others eyes when talking or even arguing, cooking a favorite meal for your significant other, not going to bed angry, complimenting and encouraging each other, having lunch dates if you work in local cities, surprise your significant other at work (men, always bring flowers, every woman wants her man to storm in their with flowers and make every girl drool with jealousy) BUT my #1 favorite would have to be have each others passwords and bank account info. That one is really more of a safety measure. If you feel like you have to hide something from your spouse then your relationship is already headed down hill, AND FAST!
Always remember, an affair NEVER starts in the bedroom, but usually with a simple conversation.
Here is what was astonishing to me, and please everyone take a moment and let me know your thoughts. Every issue people named, is easily drowned out by all of the things that CAN be done to fix a marriage. Yes, I said FIX a marriage. Falling out of love? B.S. take a whole week away. without anyone else and out of the state, come back and tell me if your still out of love. Everything else? The stress, overwhelmed from children (mine are only 1 year apart, talk about insanity) and all of the other little things can absolutely be fixed with little sweet gestures to show your lover that you care and you thought of them. A tiny gesture can change wonders of how your lover looks and feels about you.
My Opinion: And remember, it’s simply my opinion. Make a list of the things that bother your about the other….and please…keep it fair…I don’t mean, “She doesn’t wake up with make up on.” I am talking more of things that really bug you. For instance, when together in the evenings NO PHONES and when your about to go to bed, go 30 minutes earlier and spend it talking and cuddling. No talking about work, kids, or money! Each of you should have your list that the other made. Now forget what you gave your partner, simply work on yourself. mistakes will happen. The trash may not always be out and the moment you felt it should be, but it might be done a lot sooner then it usually is. The purpose of this exercise is to learn about each other, like I said, we change as humans all of the time! So keep it simple. Take our lists and work on yourselves. When your partner sees you making the effort, they will be motivated to do the same.
DISCLAIMER: LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, THERE IS NOTHING MORE UNATTRACTIVE ABOUT GOING TO BED WITH YOUR TEETH UNBRUSHED AND YOUR BREATH SMELLING FRESH. TRUST ME, IT MAKES CUDDLE TIME MUCH FUNNER! MAY EVEN LEAD TO MORE ;)
PLEASE TAKE A MOMENT AND LET ME KNOW HOW THIS GOES!
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